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Life has a way to chip away at us day by day, but remember, you are not alone. It seems it is a never-ending lonely highway, with no end in sight. For some, it appears they were just born to naturally take these challenges and move right through them. Then there are those that get frustrated, overwhelmed and just plain knocked down by these challenges. How can you help, but not to feel lonely?

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The Grind

In everyday life, so many things that seem to become obstacles. The economy, the way our society is constantly changing around us. Politics, health issues, wars, prejudices and the list can go on. This extremely long road to seemingly nowhere, quite often seems hopeless. For some, they carry this weight all on their own, others have friends and family. The ones that are doing the solo act are the ones heavily burdened by the feel of isolation.you are not alone

It may be thought that people that allow themselves to feel isolated, are just feeling sorry for themselves. However, this isn’t really the case, this is more like a drowning. Unfortunately, the feeling of being alone, weighs more heavily on the more responsible people. Those people that take initiative, that try to keep everything going for everyone. These people are the ones that start feeling isolated and alone. You know who you are, just remember, you are no alone. There are many just like you that take on the daily grind just like you.

It isn’t easy to be responsible but our world has to have people that can manage it. We have enough slackers that sit on their butts, with no worries and no reason to read an article like this. On the other hand, life is what we make it. Yes, there are always chores, the never ending to do list that keeps growing. The world around us will always be going to hell, but it is up to you how to deal with it. Just because others can’t see what you deal with, and is what is causing you to feel alone. Well this isn’t good enough reason to allow yourself to feel isolated.

Life Is What You Make It

You are not alone, because you have yourself. That may sound profound but it is the truth. Everyone is the ruler of their mental and emotional realm. Earlier I said that some feel that those that feel isolated are just feeling sorry for themselves. This is partly true, but not completely accurate. When you are dealing with your problems and everyone else’s, it can bring you down. That feeling down can make you feel sorry for yourself and not even know it. However, you still have control over the situation.

One key to success and warding off the feeling of loneliness, is two parts. You need to be self-aware at all times. The other is acceptance. When you start feeling like life has you on the ropes, ask yourself why it is that way. This will be the start of your self-awareness. Once you have identified the cause of you feeling alone, then accept it. The sooner you identify the issue and accept it, the sooner you can move on.

Life is what you make it, I know that sounds like a cliché but it is very true. Granted, there are things that will happen in life that you can’t fight feeling sad or even hopeless at times. But where you are the one in control, and not the situation. You decide to not let it control or consume you. Some people have really strong emotions. For them, acceptance isn’t that easy and takes a lot more effort.

Struggling With Emotions

you are not aloneSome people just don’t understand how hard it is for others to just suck an emotion up and move on. We all have our own way of coping with situations. Some hold in anger, excitement or sadness, and do it where you don’t even know something is wrong. Everyone has their own level of will-power. No matter, emotions can affect us dramatically, even cripple some. It is hard to always keep your chin up when those around you are not paying attention to your feelings.

Many of us hold back forward emotions, due to being embarrassed. We often don’t want to appear weak or look like an emotional roller-coaster ride. Some of us feel that we don’t want the insincere sympathy from others. Showing emotions make us vulnerable. Even when you fall in love, it is scary to show it in fear of rejection.

We all have to deal with our emotional state in our own way and in our own time. However, you can’t allow sad and negative emotions, destroy your future. One thing to keep in mind, there has been someone else that has had to deal with the same situation. This may not be all that comforting, but might make it a little more real that you are not alone.

Reasons We Feel Isolated And Alone

There are many reasons we can feel isolated and lonely. Pride is high on the list of causes. Too many of us feel we can do it all on our own, that we don’t need any help from anybody. That is a lonely place you’ve put yourself in, once you take that attitude. To take the attitude that all problems rest solely on your shoulders, and no one else can help, is your own fault. One this is prideful or just wanting to feel sorry for yourself. There is nothing wrong to let others know that there are things that need to be done.

We all are guilty of giving up on others in many capacities, many are justifiable. I once heard a successful person make a bold statement that at first didn’t sit well with me. Once I thought about it, they are 100% correct. In life, you get rid of any and all negative people that drag your life down in any way. Only keep the positive and real supportive people in your life. Once you have accomplished this, you will succeed.

Sadly, people will try to throw all their problems onto someone else so they don’t have to deal with them. If you are a responsible and nice person, you are an instant target. There is nothing wrong with helping others. But that means step in and give them a hand or boost. Not let them dump their baggage on you.

Avoid Negativity

You don’t want to be around people that are always complaining. Certainly not always telling you can’t do things. That success is for greater and better people than you. You, like anyone else, has just as much of a chance to be great as anyone else. Shed yourself of de-constructive or condescending criticism. You might be shocked to know; just how many people love to cut others down so that they can feel better about themselves.

Stay away from narcissistic people, they are the worst on making you feel alone. Quite often the reasons we feel isolated and alone are outside influences. I get it, you reach out to several for help, and they all let you down. That tends to make you feel like you are the only one. And at that moment, that is an OK feeling to have, but don’t let it define you. Change your situation, if these people don’t want to be there for you, find real people that will be.

Too many worry and dwell about things they can’t change. The trick is to NOT worry about the things you can’t change and only worry about what you can. It is understandable the hesitation one would feel about making new friends. You are comfortable with the ones you have, even though you know they are not good for you. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone can be difficult. However, consider it a means of survival. If you are unhappy, feeling alone and going nowhere already. What do you have to lose to try and make it better?

Ideas On How To Deal With Negativity And Loneliness

You will get a lot of advice on how to overcome depression, or not feel lonely. Usually it is a false positive. People in general mean well, but advice like, “look on the bright side”, or “somebody has it worse.” This is not really the best help, as this type of advice totally skips over what is causing the feeling to start with. Remember, it is your road to travel, no one else’s. You are the one to decide how you want your life to be and the path you want to take to get there.

Below, you will find a list of things that can help with having a better attitude and a more positive outlook. Only you can change your mindset but if you are really willing, these can help point you in the right direction.

Self-Help Tips

  • Get off to a Good Start, get up early, eat breakfast
  • Keep a Schedule
  • Take a Break and have Fun
  • Be Generous, kind and good to others
  • Accept the things you can’t Change, worrying over something you can’t change is pointless
  • Break the Chain, change your patterns, mix it up a little and make life a variety
  • Face your Fears
  • Have Goals but Live for the Now. Goals are good but never put all your eggs in one basket
  • Don’t Procrastinate
  • Get out of your comfort zone
  • Stay focused with to-do lists
  • Acknowledge your flaws
  • Learn from people who inspire you
  • Let go of the past, again it’s pointless to worry over something you can’t change
  • Avoid negative people
  • Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, learn from them and keep moving forward
  • Choose to be happy, after all – no one else can do that for you
  • Never quit when you experience a setback or frustration
  • Never compare yourself to others
  • Remember not everyone is going to agree with you or like you, but that’s OK
  • Keep your thoughts positive
  • Acknowledge compliments with thank you
  • Associate with supportive people
  • Find your passion
  • Be yourself and never apologize for it
  • True friends support you, not try and take you down with them
  • True love is putting the other’s happiness above your own, this works both ways

Additional Help If Needed

There are hotlines and help organizations everywhere for those that are needing some kind of help. There are people in this world that do care and will take the time to give you an open hand. It is possible to succeed, and to rise above any situation that is pulling you down or making you feel like you are not where you want to be.

Life Enrichments has a decent size list of hotlines and help organizations that are available to everyone. There is also a list of charities and volunteering for those that want to help others. Quite often helping others is the best cure for your own troubles. Everyone needs someone, you can go through life completely alone but that is your choice not the way is has to be.

You are not alone, I would suggest checking out this list here: Help-Get-Help page. There is also a forum section that you can join or start any discussion. It might be helpful to others with similar issues or situations. Being alone is your own option. There are too many people around us that do care and want to help.



August 15, 2020