From the title of this book, you may think this is a guide on how to get your ex back or some avenue like that but it isn’t at all. This book is to help women understand why men leave, especially right in the middle of the relationship and to take a look at themselves and look at all perspectives.
In this book, Katz share dating advice to women based on a man's perspective, kind of what "men want in a relationship" point of view. He clearly states many times that if the woman is making the man feel comfortable and allowing him to be natural - being himself, he wants to commit to a relationship.
Katz remarks on how women have to do most of the work and enabling in the start of a relationship because men don't do much of anything to understand how women think, especially the Alpha males.
Katz helps women take a look at what men think about dating, he tries to get the women to look at how men view things. This may change women's mind about how all men aren't jerks after all.
One of the big message in this book is to not worry about why he left, that really doesn't matter. What does matter is how to give yourself the best chance of connecting with another man by understanding what pushes him away or attracts him to you.
The Pros: This is a very easy to read and understand laid out format. He gives case examples from his clients. Katz does a good job showing the difference between being right vs being rude and the difference between what should be vs how men actually think and act. There is good advice on how to turn a bad date into a good date. Good covereage on why a man can be nice to you but still disappear. Katz talks about the advantage and disadvantages of dating an alpha male or how to get an alpha male and even how to scare one off.
The Cons: Katz advises women to wait to have sex until a man commits. This could backfire, since sex is a more open part of relationships these days, this could send a signal to the man that she is either not interested, she doesn't want a commitment or she is playing some sort of head game. As a man, I have been with a girl that used sex or rather the lack of to keep her options open and it was a really hurtful head game. The only other thing I saw that might be a little negative is that this book is going to help action, take charge type women more so than a passive woman.
All in all there isn't really anything bad about this book, there may have been one or two things I really didn't agree with but overall, this will help any woman find romance happiness.
"I Think I Found You Just In The Nick of Time."
I wanted to give feedback about your new book. It is awesome! I have always struggled with the whole ''let the guy pursue you'' concept. From a woman''s perspective, I always want to be up-front about my interest level, and thought that if I didn't show interest, the guy would move on. I am in the ''courting phase'' in my current relationship (yes, we met online).
Every fiber of my being wanted to e-mail my new guy today, just to let him know that I was thinking of him, etc. But after reading your book, I decided to take your advice and Don't. Do. Anything. It was grueling! (And, BTW, he had said to me casually a couple of times that ''it's all about the chase, don't forget that.'' ) BUT, hours later, he sent me a very sexy e-mail, then sent me a text message. And I followed your instructions, and responded happily to his e-mail and his text.
Now, the other part of the book that resonated with me was written by your wife, so you get no credit. Mr. Right has a big family ''birthday dinner'' on Sunday because 4 of his family members have birthdays within a few weeks. He did not ask me to attend this event. I was hurt at first, but after reading what your wife wrote, I understand that him not inviting me to this, has nothing to do with me.
We're going on a trip to Aruba next week. I think I found you just in the nick of time.
Many thanks, Evan!
Your advice is spot-on, and sometimes (from a female perspective) hard to swallow.
"The Result Was That I Let the Man of My Dreams Walk Right Into My Arms"
When I started reading WHD, I was hooked immediately. I felt so relieved to learn how to focus on men's
I applied Evan's approach and saw immediate results. Suddenly, I was in control - the men I
I feel absolutely fantastic. There is no better feeling than knowing you are putting your best foot forward and are in control of your dating life, instead of the other way around. Using Evan's tools, I was able to effectively show men who I am, make them comfortable and at ease around me and wanting more. The result was that I let the man of my dreams walk right into my arms. It still feels surreal, it's so great!
"I HIGHLY Recommend This Book To All Women Who Want To Control Their Love Lives"
It's been about over a month since I've bought your book and I simply cannot thank you enough for how DRAMATICALLY you have changed my love life around!!!!!!
I'll admit it, I used to be absolutely clueless about the opposite sex and dating. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't get the men who liked me to stay in a relationship with me. I'd make up excuses like "Oh, he's just a dick who doesn't know better' and so on, but after reading your book, I realised my mistakes. Your book however showed me ALL the answers I had ever wanted to know!
I now have an AMAZING boyfriend who loves me. He calls me the perfect girlfriend and he rates me 15 out of 10. He told me that if he were to tell me all the things he loved about me, it would fill up my whole inbox =) He texts me first EVERYDAY and always wants to meet up with me. We never get bored of physical affection, EVER! We have make out sessions that last for hours, and the only reason they aren't longer is because of unavoidable commitments. He talks about us in the future, and wants our relationship to be a serious long-term one. He tells me that he loves me everyday, and he calls me beautiful.
I'm going to go a bit off track here, but you will see why. My boyfriend is the guy I had wanted since 2 years ago. He is my dream boyfriend, and the most decent guy I have EVER met. He is kind, funny, intelligent, logical, good looking and mild-tempered - pretty much everything you could ask for. Because of his excellent traits, he was chased by many women. Now here's the main point: Before buying this book, I thought to myself that there was no chance that I would ever be with him.. but what do you know now, that guy is now in love with me!! I'm so happy and I feel so blessed. He occasionally asks me 'what did you do to make me love you so much?', and I just reply with "I dunno" and laugh...
Seriously, I HIGHLY recommend this book to all women who want to control their love lives. I have been raving about it to all my girlfriends who are frustrated with the opposite sex. This book is an absolute joy to read and it's so good I bet you that you will finish it in only one day!! That's what I did! Also, I recommend you to take notes, and regularly revise over the notes, as the concepts Evan teaches may be difficult for your mind to absorb, as they were for me.
Once again Evan, thank you oh so so so much!! Thank you for helping me attract and keep the MAN OF MY DREAMS. I have NEVER been happier my whole entire life!!
Billed as a “personal trainer for smart, strong, successful women,” dating coach Evan Marc Katz has been helping singles find love since 2003. Thousands of his clients have fallen in love, gotten married, started families, and found happiness after only a few months of coaching..
It’s an unlikely career for a man much less a man who was called a “serial dater” by CNN yet that’s what makes Katz such a unique coach. By helping women understand men what they think, how they act, and what they really want he empowers them to make healthy, informed choices in love.
Katz likens his Love U coaching program to a Masters Degree in Men, and the metaphor is apt. His clients invariably find their education about men lessens their frustration and increases their likelihood of attracting a like-minded long term partner.
Katz started his career in customer care at JDate, during which he wrote his first book, “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating” (Ten Speed Press, 2004). Its release coincided with the online dating boom, and soon, Katz found himself in high demand, with features in The Wall St. Journal, USA Today, and Time Magazine.
His follow up venture, e-Cyrano, was the first online dating profile writing service and it made a big splash. Quickly, Katz realized that people needed support in all aspects of dating, and expanded his services into dating and relationship coaching. His second book, “Why You’re Still Single Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad” (Plume, 2006), was a critical success, yet the dating coach was ignoring the very same advice that was leading his clients to love.
In 2007, Katz decided to take his advice to the masses. He set up a blog, which began to serve as a one stop shop for anyone trying to understand relationship dynamics. Combining the insight of Dr. Drew and the wit of Adam Carolla, Katz has answered hundreds of challenging and controversial questions with a unique combination of logic, experience and empathy.
Yet despite all his professional success, Katz remained a bachelor. It wasn’t until he finally followed his own wisdom that he met his future wife and became a much better dating coach in the process. By opening up to a new kind of partner, Katz proved that to get different results in love, you have to make different choices. He’s very glad he did.
These days, Katz works primarily with the clients with whom he most identifies smart, strong, successful women who have everything... except a lasting relationship. With an array of products, group coaching and private coaching, Katz offers something for any woman who wants to get better results in her love life.
Evan Marc Katz is married and lives in Los Angeles with his incredibly cool, incredibly patient wife and their two ridiculously cute children.
Profession: Personal Trainer, Dating Coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women
Date of Birth: 1972
Media Appearances: The Wall St. Journal, USA Today, and Time Magazine
I hope this review helps