I think the book is properly titled, may people that get hurt from breakups feel that they can never fall in love again and many put up emotional walls to ensure that no one will ever get in to hurt them ever again.
Katz's 7 step plan is spot on what a woman should do to let go of the past and keep moving forward. I have written about how people set themselves up for failuer by not setting realistic goals and aproaching every new relationship with too high of expectations which usually end in disappointment and heartache.
Katz's covers all of this and in a nicely detailed order that is easy to follow along with, including breaks in between steps inside of the workbook that is included. These breaks I think are for the woman to reflect on and think about each step in order to better understand it.
You will learn how to cut ties with an ex that obviously is a dead end, how booty calls are liek an addiction that is really just holding you back to moving on to someone better. Also how to start looking for signs in a man that will let you know when to just let him walk to save yourself unnecessary time wasted on the wrong guy.
You will learn how to be happy while being single by learning how to be optimistic and loving your life. You have to learn to happy on your own, you can't put that responsibility on to someone else. Through this you will start believing again, you will let hope come back that love does await you.
In the bonus material, Katz goes over learning confidence by flirting with men at random places and staying cool while doing it. This all builds your confidence and at a point puts you in control. Then you pick what type of man you want.
- Successful dating examples from Katz personal coaching
- Workbook which helps boost your confidence to take action both in online and offline dating
- Gain a positive mindset that attracts quality men to you through the fill-in exercises after important, mind shifting lessons
- The concepts and the mindset empower you to take control of your love life which guarantees finding the right guy for you
- Katz's truthfulness, no sugar coating approach helps get you to realize that you are ready to move away from loneliness and ready to find your right match
- Katz does not allow you to accept second best treatment from any man
- The “Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone” Exercise guides you throguh an action-oriented way to finding your soul mate
The Cons: Katz often makes comments is all of his products that you can make a man love you or fall for you and I know that he is speaking metaphoricaly but that could be misleading, you can't make anyone feel what you want them to.
There could be more direction on what to do than what not to do.
I think the product is a little pricey but you do get a lot of material, the eBook, the workbook and all the audio files. There is obviously a lot of time put into this detailed program.
All in all there isn't really anything bad about this program, there may have been one or two things I really didn't agree with but overall, this will help any woman beleive in love again. I think learning confidence and how to be comfortable getting out of your comfort zone is a really good part of this program and will help women with many situations in life.
"I learned how to relax and enjoy myself"
I had one too many failed relationships and wanted to understand what part of the dynamic I created so that I could proactively create a new and better outcome. I needed clarification on men’s motivations and what signals I was missing in a "chemistry haze" of attraction.
I learned how to relax and enjoy. If there was one thing that really helped it was to go online, date lots of guys so that none of them took on undue importance too soon in the process. Now, I’m dating a really nice man who is treating me like a lady and following up with texts, e-mails, and calls. He schedules dates with me and is introducing me into his life.
I finally feel respected. It’s really nice to be in a relationship with someone thoughtful, smart, funny, kind, handsome, and successful.
"I didn’t understand why I couldn’t find the 'right' kind of men"
Before Evan, I was still toying with unhealthy relationships and blaming the men in my life for being commitment phobic. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t find the “right” kind of men – good looking, successful, confident, AND ready to commit.
I learned that I was responsible for attracting and allowing those unfulfilling relationships! That I was approaching the dating scene with a “lack mentality” and therefore settling for less than a suitable match and tolerating bad behavior. But not only that, I learned that I was actually the one who was reluctant to commit to a relationship.
I was able to shift my mindset around my relationship with men in general.
I now know that now going forward the quality of my relationships will be much higher, making my ability to commit to a healthy relationship much more likely.
Thank you Evan for all that you’ve done!
"If I had known you before I could have saved myself YEARS of therapy."
Where have you been for my ENTIRE adult life?! I just want to tell you that if I had known you before I could have saved myself YEARS of therapy. I wouldn't have stayed with my ex-fiance for seven plus years, I wouldn't have gone to sex and love addicts anonymous (while it helped, it did nothing to change how I was looking at men and how I was looking at me with them). I am NOT a sex and love addict nor did I need years of torturous therapy only to see my old patterns come roaring back with gusto. While therapy has its place, it doesn't give one the mental shift that is needed (it didn't for me).
What I needed was you and this type of talk. I have been a serial monogamist. Truth be told, I stayed in relationships too long, ignored too many red flags, was the red flag, and never dated a slew of men to see what I wanted or what would be a good match. Everything was based on FEELINGS and DESIRES and CHEMISTRY along with the notion of "THE ONE!"
I stopped dating 2 years and 7 months ago because I had it, done. I stepped back into the dating world again recently only to start out strong and then begin to see old patterns. I met a guy and the chemistry was outrageous for both of us. Nothing happened because I shut it down. I knew it was too nuts too fast. I searched the web for help and found you. Do you know what you helped me to do? You helped me to stop the OBSESSION with this guy. Now, I am still attracted but I am no longer sprung AND my head is on right about who he is and where I am at in my life. He is NOT the end all be all and his commitment to see me is almost zero. VOILA!!! He is not a bad guy just not into me in that way right now and maybe even ever. ALL communication had been done through text and phone. Wow, talk about a fantasy of feelings and emotions.
THANK YOU...Dear God...THANK YOU!!!!
Billed as a “personal trainer for smart, strong, successful women,” dating coach Evan Marc Katz has been helping singles find love since 2003. Thousands of his clients have fallen in love, gotten married, started families, and found happiness after only a few months of coaching..
It’s an unlikely career for a man much less a man who was called a “serial dater” by CNN yet that’s what makes Katz such a unique coach. By helping women understand men what they think, how they act, and what they really want he empowers them to make healthy, informed choices in love.
Katz likens his Love U coaching program to a Masters Degree in Men, and the metaphor is apt. His clients invariably find their education about men lessens their frustration and increases their likelihood of attracting a like-minded long term partner.
Katz started his career in customer care at JDate, during which he wrote his first book, “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating” (Ten Speed Press, 2004). Its release coincided with the online dating boom, and soon, Katz found himself in high demand, with features in The Wall St. Journal, USA Today, and Time Magazine.
His follow up venture, e-Cyrano, was the first online dating profile writing service and it made a big splash. Quickly, Katz realized that people needed support in all aspects of dating, and expanded his services into dating and relationship coaching. His second book, “Why You’re Still Single Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad” (Plume, 2006), was a critical success, yet the dating coach was ignoring the very same advice that was leading his clients to love.
In 2007, Katz decided to take his advice to the masses. He set up a blog, which began to serve as a one stop shop for anyone trying to understand relationship dynamics. Combining the insight of Dr. Drew and the wit of Adam Carolla, Katz has answered hundreds of challenging and controversial questions with a unique combination of logic, experience and empathy.
Yet despite all his professional success, Katz remained a bachelor. It wasn’t until he finally followed his own wisdom that he met his future wife and became a much better dating coach in the process. By opening up to a new kind of partner, Katz proved that to get different results in love, you have to make different choices. He’s very glad he did.
These days, Katz works primarily with the clients with whom he most identifies smart, strong, successful women who have everything... except a lasting relationship. With an array of products, group coaching and private coaching, Katz offers something for any woman who wants to get better results in her love life.
Evan Marc Katz is married and lives in Los Angeles with his incredibly cool, incredibly patient wife and their two ridiculously cute children.
Profession: Personal Trainer, Dating Coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women
Date of Birth: 1972
Media Appearances: The Wall St. Journal, USA Today, and Time Magazine
I hope this review helps